Wednesday, June 18, 2008

They tried to make her go to rehab...

she just said No, No, No.

I'm sorry, I've been hearing that song in my head a lot this week. My mother has never heard of Amy Winehouse, but I can totally see her in the black eyeliner in the video. It gives it a whole new flavor- a little old lady, leaning on her walker, but with the same look on her face.

My mother has been blacklisted with her insurance company for non-compliance with rehab. Yeah, isn't that special? An exhausted and depressed elderly patient has been told screw you, honey, we only pay if we think you are gonna get better. We don't think that about you, so you can rot in that bed, please die soon, have a nice day. I talked to the administrator of the skilled nursing facility and I think that we have a way to deal with that, but she's still private pay in skilled nursing, to the tune of over $5000 a month just for room and board. Medication and such, oh yeah, that's extra.

I will pause now while the rest of the world picks itself off the floor and/or cleans the screen and keyboard - welcome to getting old in America. Fortunately, she has some financial resources and I can write those checks for a while. After that it gets murky. But I have a plan for the next week, and then the week after that we will adjust, and after that, again, adjust....

And this is just what I do in my ample spare time. During the day, I have a real job.

5 comments:

KatyaR said...

Jesus, Catherine, what a mess.

I'm hoping I just drop dead one day--can't afford to be old in America.

Hugs . . . .

Cursing Mama said...

So, my "plan" for once I become unable to care for myself which involves the destruction of an incredibly expensive red sports car convertible may actually be cheaper after all. I always knew it was faster.

Anonymous said...

I so understand your sticker shock. My mom looked into an assisted living facility for my grandmother and her husband, six thousand dollars a month for each of them. I told my mom that couldn't be right. The social worker at the facility said that they would have to burn through all of their assets and then see if medicare will pick up the tab and even then there is no guarantee that they would pay for them to stay at that particular place, one of the nicest in their hometown. It would be cheaper for me to move in with them and take care of them but my grandmother is a lot like your mom and so not worth risking my sanity. Sending you good vibes. Toni in Oregon

Janet said...

Did someone have to tattle on her to the insurance company for them to know that she was not in "compliance"? How does that work? And is that automatic--as in the coverage stops effective immediately?

They are so unbelievably slow when it comes to covering legitimate costs, but I guess they can move pretty quickly when they want to cut somebody off.

Catherine said...

The PT people have to report, and their reports indicated that she was not compliant, so the insurer said too bad, we tried this already.